IF I WAS YOUR GIRL

Meredith Russo was born, raised, and lives in Tennessee. She started living as her true self in late 2013 and never looked back. If I Was Your Girl was partially inspired by her experiences as a trans woman. Like Amanda, Meredith is a gigantic nerd who spends a lot of her time obsessing over video games and Star Wars.

Stonewall Book Award Winner
Walter Dean Myers Honor Book for Outstanding Children’s Literature
iBooks YA Novel of the Year
A Publishers Weekly Best Book of the Year
A Kirkus Reviews Best Book of the Year
A Zoella Book Club Selection
An Amazon Best Book of the Year
A Goodreads Choice Award Finalist 
A Barnes & Noble Best YA Book of the Year 
A Bustle Best YA Book of the Year
IndieNext Top 10 List
One of Flavorwire’s 50 Books Every Modern Teenager Should Read

“A beautifully rendered YA novel . . . the first written by a transgender woman about the transgender teen experience.” —San Francisco Chronicle

“A necessary, universal story about feeling different and enduring prejudices…full of love, hope, and truth.”—Kirkus, starred review 

“This is everything a coming-of-age novel should be—honest, complicated, and meaningful. Transcends the typical ‘issue’ novel to be a beautiful tale in its own right.”—School Library Journal, SLJ Popular Pick

1. When Grant first introduces himself to Amanda, she wonders “if a boy like him could ever understand what it was like to be me. To know what it was like to view high school as something you needed to survive.” Do you think every teenager feels this way at some point? Why?

2. There are many ways to describe Amanda: she’s young, Southern, transgender. Despite these specifics, in what ways is her story universal?

3. When young Amanda gives her dad the story she wrote in class, he tells her, “Son, I want you to have a good life. Boys who really think the things in your story are con­fused. They don’t have good lives. So you’re not one of those boys.” It becomes clear that Amanda’s father was always worried about her safety, even as he tried to hide who she really was. Was he always wrong to do so? Do you think his actions are justified in some way?

4. Amanda wrestles with religion and her faith, thinking, “It was hard to place too much hope in a God so many people said hated me,” and yet she also feels connect­ed and reassured in church. For queer readers who are religious, how do you grapple with traditional religious texts and beliefs?

5. When Amanda goes to the football game, she observes that “Too many dads seemed interested in us as we passed, and for just a moment I missed the near‑invis­ibility of life as a boy.” In what ways is she still learning what it means to be a girl, even though she’s been one on the inside her whole life?

6. Amanda feels that her dad was always trying to push “boy” activities such as hunting and sports on her. Why are activities still gendered? Is it harder for young boys to get away from those expectations than it is for young girls?

7. When Bee takes photos of Amanda, she says, “Why a girl like you doesn’t want to be seen is a mystery to me.” How does the book show the way outward appearances reflect our true selves? Or how they don’t?

8. When Amanda’s mother says she misses her son, she tells Amanda, “You look different, you sound different, your hands feel different when I touch ’em. Hell, you even smell different,” even as Amanda points out that she’s still the same person. What is it that makes us who we are?

9. Did you anticipate Bee’s big homecoming reveal? Was it building over the course of the book as different characters both withheld and revealed their own se­crets or was it a surprise? Do you agree with Amanda when she concludes that “maybe secrets and lies were a part of life; maybe everyone had something they were lying to themselves about, or something they were hid­ing”?

10. When Amanda plays catch with her father, she tells him, “I’m not brave. Bravery implies I had a choice. I’m just me, you know?” Discuss the ways Amanda is brave or, if you agree with her, that she isn’t.

11. When Amanda returns to Lambertville, Anna tells her she thinks “it’s a sin,” but “just ’cause I’m grappling with [the metaphysics] doesn’t mean I don’t still love you.” Is it possible to be friends with someone who has views that completely contradict your own?