THERE BUT FOR GRACE


There but for Grace, a novel described by Margot Livesey as “a lovely, witty deeply absorbing novel,” chronicles one woman’s mission to challenge the stereotypes about “older” women. She does so with grace, wit, and a no-holds-barred feistiness that will engage readers of all ages. Fifty-three-year-old Grace Winthrop Hobbes is newly divorced with two college-age kids, an eccentric octogenarian mother, a stalled novel-in-progress, and a sex drive that is coming out of hibernation with a vengeance. Refusing to go gently into the dark night of abstinence and retreat, and tired of sexual double standards, Grace makes a vow to seize life’s bull by the horns.

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There but for Grace, a novel described by Margot Livesey as “a lovely, witty deeply absorbing novel,” chronicles one woman’s mission to challenge the stereotypes about “older” women. She does so with grace, wit, and a no-holds-barred feistiness that will engage readers of all ages. Fifty-three-year-old Grace Winthrop Hobbes is newly divorced with two college-age kids, an eccentric octogenarian mother, a stalled novel-in-progress, and a sex drive that is coming out of hibernation with a vengeance. Refusing to go gently into the dark night of abstinence and retreat, and tired of sexual double standards, Grace makes a vow to seize life’s bull by the horns. Her adventures begin with Fuzz, who likes to take notes after sex; with Dylan, a soulful computer genius in search of an “era”; Otis, a one-armed jogger raising a seven-year-old daughter with OCD; and a banker in Vermont who offers a new twist. However, Grace’s year of re-liberation doesnt go quite as planned. As her empty house slowly fills with quirky, unexpected “guests,” she gains new insights into friendship, intimacy, happiness, and the notion of home. There but for Grace is a funny, earnest look at the modern “family,” nuclear and extended — sometimes way overextended.

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  • Regal House Publishing
  • Paperback
  • June 2025
  • 292 Pages
  • 9781646035571

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About Anne Whitney Pierce

Anne Whitney Pierce is the author of There but for GraceWith a quick wit and an open heart and mind, award-winning author Anne Whitney Pierce entertains while asking probing questions about gender identity, ageism, and the double standards applied to men and women in the dance between the sexes. Anne Whitney Pierce is the recipient of the Willa Cather Fiction Prize, the Nelson Algren Award, and a Barnes and Noble Discover Great New Writers Award. The New York Times Book Review wrote of her work, “Demonstrating a keen ear for unpretentious voices, Pierce spins richly-populated yarns of divorce, abandonment, birth and love.”

Discussion Questions

1. Grace came of age in the Sixties during an age of “free love” and the sexual liberation. What differences does she find, nearly half a century later, between the dating scene/genre stereotypes then and now?

2. They say some trends and attitudes skip a generation. How do Grace’s views on sex, dating and marriage differ from those of her children?

3. One night at the bar, Grace asks women to identify their first “feminist moments.” Their answers vary widely and might surprise you. Discuss some of your first feminist moments and why they were significant in your lives.